It’s time for a challenge. For the past three weeks, I’ve been exploring the idea of “Talking to more people, longer”. This week, I’m circling back to ask: did you try? If you have, I’d love to know what you experienced. How did it feel to talk to someone, longer?
If you haven’t, then you are my ideal audience for this message, because I’m challenging you to go do the things I have written about. Talk to more people, longer. Here are some prompts to help you identify your ideal conversation partner and get deeper into a conversation:
Ideas of WHO to talk to longer and HOW to get the conversation started:
- The person you shy away from. What is it about this person that pushes you away? What if you looked at him differently and asked him a question that might make him less intimidating? Something like, “I know we have never talked, but I’m curious about what we might have in common.”
- Someone you unfriended or unfollowed on social media because you just couldn’t see eye-to-eye with their point of view. The set-up: We’ve got too much history / good times / shared connections to let our points of view get in the way. Would you chat with me so I can understand why we feel so differently about things?
- The person you are friends with on social media, but don’t really know. Take a cue from what I did with my Facebook group and put yourself out there. Or be like my friend and fellow coach Tracy Oswald and invite people through LinkedIn to a powerful conversation. Her opening is, “I’ve challenged myself to have 100 conversations from my LinkedIn connections.” You will be surprised at who says yes!
There are likely dozens of people you could categorize or list who are candidates for talking to, longer. For today, who is one person you will start with? All journeys start with a single step and your journey to talking to more people, longer, is no different.
Not sure who to even start talking with, longer? Make sure you check out the Network Mapping Exercise I described in a previous article. There is a free download available HERE.
Once you dive into that, reach out to me to brainstorm where to start your networking and building meaningful connections. As a coach who specializes in networking, relationship building and professional development, I’d be happy to spend 30 minutes discussing your experience and help you uncover even more opportunity with your network.
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